Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Inspiration by Philosophers & Achievers

Steve Jobs - Apple



“Follow your intuition and curiosity... 
Trust your heart even when it leads you off the well-worn path...
You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future...
The only way to do great work is to love what you do.
If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking.  
Don’t settle.
As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it... 
Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. 
They somehow already know what you truly want to become.
Everything else is secondary.”

Nelson Mandela




Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world. (this line inspired me to STEP UP)

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically, liberates others.

This poem is from the book the Course of Miracles written by Marianne Williamson.


Monday, September 7, 2015

Finetuning My Intention

Everyday is a new opportunity to continue to claim your purposeful intention for yourself in your life. That means, constant letting go what doesn't serve and support you and replacing it with something new and exciting and meaningful which automatically enthuses zest and energy into your life!!

First I started setting goals on a sheet of paper, lineal style in blue or black pen. They were great goals but didn't match my inner being.

Then I started doing treasure maps, using colour and pictures and words, and I LOVE those! They match my personality and a picture of my gorgeous Catalina yacht or photo of Machu Picchu makes my soul soar. :)

Now, I've discovered another way of creating intentions....and it's all to do with using the Law of Attraction's motto of 'feeling good' along with other strategies, like learning, growth, strategies etc, to align to your dreams and goals. And of course, mine is a movie, that's never been created before. So it's cutting edge creation and 'pushes all my buttons: mentally, physically, financially, emotionally and spiritually, as I create this huge and exciting goal.

Here's my latest intention for my success.


It mightn't look as pretty as the pictures, but it's in addition to the treasure maps. Why not give it a go for your goals and dreams?

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Tuesday, September 1, 2015

21 Reasons Keeping you in Difficult Relationships

There's lots of things that hold us back in our life and often it's FEAR. Your ego thinks of plenty of reasons to stop you in your tracks and halt you moving forward.

Part of that is that our uncomfortable comfort zone means you know what to expect, whereas your uncomfortable comfort zone of change leads you on an adventure, where you might encounter: Lions and tigers and rejection and hurt and white rabbits and moonbeams and gorillas and dinosaurs. Like Dorothy in the old famous movie "The Wizard of Oz"....it all depend which yellow brick road you follow.

So coping with difficult people, difficult relationship and/or bullies, wastes your time, energy and waking hours (even your sleeping hours) until you get it sorted, create yourself new boundaries with new words you learn, so you can move down your exciting yellow brick road to fun and more happiness.

Your mind embarks on a journey similar to this...and part way it gets stuck by an old belief or fear.

  1. Yes, I want to fix it
  2. Yes it hurts, bugs, annoys, frustrates me
  3. I want an easy, simple decision made for my answer to my problems
  4. I don’t want to do anything unpleasant
  5. I don’t want to hurt anyone
  6. I’d rather hurt myself than them
  7. I don’t value my own life or my own dream enough
  8. I’ve been taught to put others first
  9. What if people don’t like me
  10. I’ll put up with it, rather than cause waves
  11. But I really don’t like it
  12. But I really want to fix it
  13. I wonder how I can do it easily
  14. I know there is a programme that will teach me how
  15. Can I afford it
  16. What if someone finds out
  17. What will people think of me
  18. Will they think I’m weak…probably…but they DO now anyway
  19. Well, I’m going to show them I’m not
  20. I’m going to EMPOWER MYSELF
  21. I owe it to ME to ACHIEVE MY DREAM LIFE
And...this leads you on an exciting journey toward feeling fantastic about everything you include in your life.
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Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Emotions in your Relationships: Happy or Sad?

 If you want to feel good and be empowered in your relationships...you've got two choices.

1 Lock yourself in a cupboard so you can't interact with troublesome people

2  Only interact with people you like

3  Learn to interact better in all your relationships, so you feel good. That's called being "empowered". Being the person of power in your own life.

This list of emotions that you feel, indicate where you are relative to your relationships. The top seven emotions are great but if you experience the rest of the emotions, and you still want to have great relationships, you need to learn how to do this. The sooner you do, the better you will feel and the happier live you will lead.

  Emotional Guidance Scale
Positive Expectation/Belief
From the book “Ask and It is Given”, pg. 114

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Friday, August 21, 2015

Emotional Guidance in Your Relationships

As youngsters generally we're not taught about our feelings and emotions, yet they are a vital clue as to whether we're on track creating success for ourselves. We know when we're feeling happy or sad, angry or hurt, disappointed or elated but what's the use of these feelings if we don't understand why we are experiencing them.

Basically, negative feelings mean our outer world does not make us happy....and the more unhappiness we're experiencing the more things we need to do, to make us happy.

With six areas of life to set goals in: You, Health, Relationships, Work, Finances, Spiritual/Community and our mind. body and soul guiding us...sometimes we've more changes to make than we can handle. However, if you decide what you want that will make you happy (soul decision) and change your thoughts (mind decision) then you take action which is a (body decision)
you'll be feeling empowered in your life.

On this chart, (borrowed from Abraham and Ester Hicks), you can decide how you feel now and where you want to be. It doesn't matter which area of your life, but in this assessment and our topic of difficult people and relationships, decide where your emotions are relative to your relationship

Ask yourself these questions:
  1. How do I feel NOW about my relationship with the difficult people in my life?
  2. What do I want to say/do which I can't do now?

Then ask yourself these questions:
  1. How would I like to feel in the FUTURE about relationships?
  2. What do I need to learn to do?
  3. What action am I willing to take to create win/win happy enjoyable relationships in my life?
Nelson Mandela used these words in a poem: Your playing small does not serve the world.
I added a few more words to that quote....And it doesn't serve me either.

So, if you want those great relationships, you need to learn (like I did) how to create them.

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Saturday, August 8, 2015

Creating New Boundaries in Your Relationships

Some people have said 'it's selfish' when you don't look after them...or stop looking after them and doing things they want you to do for them. This isn't true....when you are looking after your own needs first and their needs second.

In fact, they are being selfish when they want you to look after them before you look after yourself. They are wearing two hats. I want you to look after me (I'm being selfish) but when you want to look after you (You are being selfish). It is their needs which are met in both situations whilst yours are not. It's what is called a win/lose relationship...Win for them and Lose for you!!If not now, eventually this leaves you feeling not ok!

If you're not healthy and happy, you are not doing a good job of living your life. When you are making them happy and healthy as your foremost goal,  you will become increasingly unhappy and eventually resentful.

Here's an overview with EITHER and OR situations:

Change your Personal Power

in Difficult Relationships

YOU IN A Difficult Relationship Situation 

            CHOICE 1                                        CHOICE 2                 

Living life Now                                               Living Life Tomorrow                     

Not Empowered  L                    OR              Empowered J

Saying Yes to others/No to you    OR              Say No to others & Yes to you

Unhappy Feeling/Not OKL        OR              Happy feeling/OKJ

Old boundaries                             OR             New boundaries

(Unhappy & Your Past)    L        OR                (Happy & Your Future)J

Doing things you don’t want       OR             Making you happy

 (Feel used)     L                          OR                (Feel in control of you)J

Being abused by someone            OR             Creating new boundaries

(Feel abused)   L                          OR               Feel happy)J

Put up with things you don’t like OR            Spend time on your goals

(Feel undeserving)    L                OR            (Feel worthy & successful) J


                           YOU DECIDING WHICH WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE

LOSE/LOSE RELATIONSHIP L   OR  WIN/WIN L                                     




UNDERACHIEVE IN LIFE L          OR   ACHIEVE J                                      

You will see that Choice 1 which is maybe where you are right now, will never bring you the happiness and success across all areas of your life, until you start to set new boundaries for yourself.

It's one step at a time...but as the quote goes: When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

I Urge you go on your journey of empowering yourself to create new boundaries for yourself in your life and with others as you develop and create the dreams and success you desire in you life. You will always be supported by someone on your journey...it starts with you saying 'Yes to You!"

There is no-one in the world who has the same fingerprint as you - and the world needs everyone to step up to become their greatest....Your day can start today!

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