Success Attitude Show - Overcoming Your Fears

Inspiration by Philosophers & Achievers

Steve Jobs - Apple

 

 

“Follow your intuition and curiosity... 

Trust your heart even when it leads you off the well-worn path...

You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future...

The only way to do great work is to love what you do.

If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking.  

Don’t settle.

As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it... 

Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. 

They somehow already know what you truly want to become.

Everything else is secondary.”

 

 

 

Nelson Mandela

 

 

 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world. (this line inspired me to STEP UP)

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically, liberates others.

 

This poem is from the book the Course of Miracles written by Marianne Williamson.

 

Finetuning My Intention

Everyday is a new opportunity to continue to claim your purposeful intention for yourself in your life. That means, constant letting go what doesn't serve and support you and replacing it with something new and exciting and meaningful which automatically enthuses zest and energy into your life!!

First I started setting goals on a sheet of paper, lineal style in blue or black pen. They were great goals but didn't match my inner being.

Then I started doing treasure maps, using colour and pictures and words, and I LOVE those! They match my personality and a picture of my gorgeous Catalina yacht or photo of Machu Picchu makes my soul soar. :)

Now, I've discovered another way of creating intentions....and it's all to do with using the Law of Attraction's motto of 'feeling good' along with other strategies, like learning, growth, strategies etc, to align to your dreams and goals. And of course, mine is a movie, that's never been created before. So it's cutting edge creation and 'pushes all my buttons: mentally, physically, financially, emotionally and spiritually, as I create this huge and exciting goal.

Here's my latest intention for my success.

 

It mightn't look as pretty as the pictures, but it's in addition to the treasure maps. Why not give it a go for your goals and dreams?

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21 Reasons Keeping you in Difficult Relationships

There's lots of things that hold us back in our life and often it's FEAR. Your ego thinks of plenty of reasons to stop you in your tracks and halt you moving forward.

Part of that is that our uncomfortable comfort zone means you know what to expect, whereas your uncomfortable comfort zone of change leads you on an adventure, where you might encounter: Lions and tigers and rejection and hurt and white rabbits and moonbeams and gorillas and dinosaurs. Like Dorothy in the old famous movie "The Wizard of Oz"....it all depend which yellow brick road you follow.

So coping with difficult people, difficult relationship and/or bullies, wastes your time, energy and waking hours (even your sleeping hours) until you get it sorted, create yourself new boundaries with new words you learn, so you can move down your exciting yellow brick road to fun and more happiness.

Your mind embarks on a journey similar to this...and part way it gets stuck by an old belief or fear.

1. Yes, I want to fix it
2. Yes it hurts, bugs, annoys, frustrates me
3. I want an easy, simple decision made for my answer to my problems
4. I don’t want to do anything unpleasant
5. I don’t want to hurt anyone
6. I’d rather hurt myself than them
7. I don’t value my own life or my own dream enough
8. I’ve been taught to put others first
9. What if people don’t like me
10. I’ll put up with it, rather than cause waves
11. But I really don’t like it
12. But I really want to fix it
13. I wonder how I can do it easily
14. I know there is a programme that will teach me how
15. Can I afford it
16. What if someone finds out
17. What will people think of me
18. Will they think I’m weak…probably…but they DO now anyway
19. Well, I’m going to show them I’m not
20. I’m going to EMPOWER MYSELF
21. I owe it to ME to ACHIEVE MY DREAM LIFE
    

And...this leads you on an exciting journey toward feeling fantastic about everything you include in your life.

 

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Emotions in your Relationships: Happy or Sad?

 If you want to feel good and be empowered in your relationships...you've got two choices.

1 Lock yourself in a cupboard so you can't interact with troublesome people

2  Only interact with people you like

3  Learn to interact better in all your relationships, so you feel good. That's called being "empowered". Being the person of power in your own life.

This list of emotions that you feel, indicate where you are relative to your relationships. The top seven emotions are great but if you experience the rest of the emotions, and you still want to have great relationships, you need to learn how to do this. The sooner you do, the better you will feel and the happier live you will lead.

Emotional Guidance Scale 1. Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love 2. Passion 3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness 4. Positive Expectation/Belief 5. Optimism 6. Hopefulness 7. Contentment 8. Boredom 9. Pessimism 10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience 11. Overwhelm 12. Disappointment 13. Doubt 14. Worry 15. Blame 16. Discouragement 17. Anger 18. Revenge 19. Hatred/Rage 20. Jealousy 21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness 22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness From the book “Ask and It is Given”, pg. 114

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Emotional Guidance in Your Relationships

As youngsters generally we're not taught about our feelings and emotions, yet they are a vital clue as to whether we're on track creating success for ourselves. We know when we're feeling happy or sad, angry or hurt, disappointed or elated but what's the use of these feelings if we don't understand why we are experiencing them.

Basically, negative feelings mean our outer world does not make us happy....and the more unhappiness we're experiencing the more things we need to do, to make us happy.

With six areas of life to set goals in: You, Health, Relationships, Work, Finances, Spiritual/Community and our mind. body and soul guiding us...sometimes we've more changes to make than we can handle. However, if you decide what you want that will make you happy (soul decision) and change your thoughts (mind decision) then you take action which is a (body decision)
you'll be feeling empowered in your life.

On this chart, (borrowed from Abraham and Ester Hicks), you can decide how you feel now and where you want to be. It doesn't matter which area of your life, but in this assessment and our topic of difficult people and relationships, decide where your emotions are relative to your relationship

Ask yourself these questions:

1. How do I feel NOW about my relationship with the difficult people in my life?
2. What do I want to say/do which I can't do now?

Then ask yourself these questions:

1. How would I like to feel in the FUTURE about relationships?
2. What do I need to learn to do?
3. What action am I willing to take to create win/win happy enjoyable relationships in my life?

Nelson Mandela used these words in a poem: Your playing small does not serve the world.
I added a few more words to that quote....And it doesn't serve me either.

So, if you want those great relationships, you need to learn (like I did) how to create them.

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Creating New Boundaries in Your Relationships

Some people have said 'it's selfish' when you don't look after them...or stop looking after them and doing things they want you to do for them. This isn't true....when you are looking after your own needs first and their needs second.

In fact, they are being selfish when they want you to look after them before you look after yourself. They are wearing two hats. I want you to look after me (I'm being selfish) but when you want to look after you (You are being selfish). It is their needs which are met in both situations whilst yours are not. It's what is called a win/lose relationship...Win for them and Lose for you!!If not now, eventually this leaves you feeling not ok!

If you're not healthy and happy, you are not doing a good job of living your life. When you are making them happy and healthy as your foremost goal,  you will become increasingly unhappy and eventually resentful.

Here's an overview with EITHER and OR situations:

Change your Personal Power

in Difficult Relationships

 

YOU IN A Difficult Relationship Situation 

 

            CHOICE 1                                        CHOICE 2                 

Living life Now                                               Living Life Tomorrow                     

Not Empowered  L                    OR              Empowered J

Saying Yes to others/No to you    OR              Say No to others & Yes to you

                                                                                                                                          

Unhappy Feeling/Not OKL        OR              Happy feeling/OKJ

                                                          

Old boundaries                             OR             New boundaries

(Unhappy & Your Past)    L        OR                (Happy & Your Future)J

 

Doing things you don’t want       OR             Making you happy

 (Feel used)     L                          OR                (Feel in control of you)J

Being abused by someone            OR             Creating new boundaries

(Feel abused)   L                          OR               Feel happy)J

                                                                                            

Put up with things you don’t like OR            Spend time on your goals

(Feel undeserving)    L                OR            (Feel worthy & successful) J

 

                           YOU DECIDING WHICH WAY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE

 

LOSE/LOSE RELATIONSHIP L   OR  WIN/WIN L                                     

LIVE BELOW POTENTIAL L         OR  CREATE YOUR POTENTIAL L

DON’T CREATE DREAMS   L        OR  CREATE YOUR DREAMS J

DON’T CREATE SUCCESS  L        OR   CREATE YOUR SUCCESSJ

UNDERACHIEVE IN LIFE L          OR   ACHIEVE J                                      

You will see that Choice 1 which is maybe where you are right now, will never bring you the happiness and success across all areas of your life, until you start to set new boundaries for yourself.

It's one step at a time...but as the quote goes: When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

I Urge you go on your journey of empowering yourself to create new boundaries for yourself in your life and with others as you develop and create the dreams and success you desire in you life. You will always be supported by someone on your journey...it starts with you saying 'Yes to You!"

There is no-one in the world who has the same fingerprint as you - and the world needs everyone to step up to become their greatest....Your day can start today!

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Changing Your Thoughts from Negative to Positive

If you let your mind, it will 'run away' on a journey of its own, with negative thinking about almost every topic in the world.

When one part of your brain start to think about making changes to improve your life, another part of your brain will think lots of reasons why you should not do anything different in your life. Thoughts like: you can't, you're not good enough, it's scary, what if you fail and many other excuses that halt your progress.

 

Once you decide you want to feel happier, improve your relationships, believe in yourself, create more success, think positive or any other goal you set yourself, it takes some commitment to start to change your thoughts  to create a new life for yourself.

 

It's like a thought is on a see saw....as you create new boundaries in your life for yourself, your relationships and your goals.

 

 

 

This is absolutely normal and a bit of a challenge It's one thought at a time that you are daily, minute by minute, even every second starting to control the thoughts in your brain so you can create the special unique person you were born to become. Gradually all the thoughts in your brain begin to mainly focus on these positive thoughts below. It doesn't happen overnight, but it does happen when you begin to learn this process.

Here's some famous people who have been on the same journey, you can embark on:

• John Assaraf (Top motivational guru & business man) Once hung out with gangs
• Louise Hay (Top motivational guru Owner of Hay House) Once  had cancer
• Dr Joe Vitale (Top motivational/spiritual  & business man) Once homeless & broke
• Oprah Winfrey (Top motivational TV presenter & more) Once abused

Everyone has a challenge to change their thoughts, it is up to you to learn to value yourself and relationships and daily take steps to create them your dreams in all areas of your life.

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3 reasons to Improve Your Relationships with Difficul People

Here are three fabulous reasons to improve your relationships with difficult people which will make you feel better about yourself and your life.

Learning to create better relationships with these people is setting new boundaries for yourself. It's about saying Yes to you....while saying No to them. However, it's about using phrases and words that are empowering. It's not yelling and screaming, it's you learning to have the confidence, courage, understanding, right skill set to start to improve your life for you.

You are with yourself from when you were born and no-one has spent as much time with you as yourself. You will be with yourself until you leave planet earth, so why wouldn't you want to make sure you enjoy the rest of your life as best you are able.

Some of this starts will having a better relationship with yourself first and then with the other people in your life.

We all want to be loved, but we want to feel great in our relationships.

These 3 reasons are why:

HAPPINESS: Your life is about creating your happiness. Difficult people make you feel unhappy, so your inner wisdom ‘gut for men’,’ intuition for women’ is indicating you need to learn to change to make yourself happy.

STRESS: Research shows challenging relationships causes stress. Talking or thinking about these incidents your brain recalls the stress again and because it’s one of the world’s biggest diseases it’s healthier to reduce your stress.

Move from this relationship

ENERGY: You need energy to create your happiness and success. When it is spent on difficult relationships, you have less energy and urge to make yourself happy and successful.

 

 To communicating like this in relationships

 

Learning to have better relationships with difficult and challenging people and bullies, is about being a better, happier you with some new skills and boundaries for your life, happiness and success.

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Soul Soaring at Work - Positive Thinking for Goals - Foundations for you...

The Eagles wowed us then and wow us now!!

 

These guys have followed their passions, living their dream lives...I hope you are either living your dream life already or if not...working towards it. It's sad when people can have a happier life and stuck, so if this is you and ready to move forward contact me here Click Here

 

My first Eagles concert in Sydney...somehow I got the given the back seat in the back row (I had booked a closer one but they said - oops....this seat of nothing) BUT at least we were able to dance with no-one behind us. I hope this week, the concert is a better view.

 

  Enjoy Your Friday!!!

I've tried to insert an Eagles song...but something not working today.

 

My Life and Work is my Playground :)

I’m an awesome profit attracting spiritualpreneur.

I feel good about my work and business.

I feel good about where my business is moving.

I love thinking, planning and being creative.

I know things are possible and easily done.

I can do things without stress and struggle.

I work with a magnificent team.

I have time to be energetic and creative.

I love to do stuff that feeds my heart and soul.

I have fun everyday & thrill from enjoying now.

I feel deeply satisfied and at peace.

I am energized at the end of my work day.

I enjoy my evening.

I am amazed by the way, more money, opportunities and new clients

arrive by magic and miracles.

I have ease, fun, fun and success in my life.

I live my life, going with the flow and welcome inspiration.

I am the CEO of my business and my life!!!

 

 

If you'd like your life to be a zippy, zappy and fabulous, Coaching packages are available. Email

janice@attitudespecialist.co.nz Or I have an online one still available at the old price. Visit

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I Promise Myself Poem from The Secret

Great words to live by and I try to live like this.

 

 

If you need help to live like this, email me for a -  List of your dream job One sheet, A  free coaching session or the Happiness Scale PDF. Go Well and Succeed.

You Should Love This Person on Valentines Day

Society has bought us up to think of other people are sometimes more important than us. Yes, that's true at certain times in our lives...however in personal relationships, you'll attract another person who is at the same level of thinking at yourself and you're unhappy, so are they likely to be. So, search for this person and be your own hero and have a healthy respect for yourself and your own life....before thinking a partner is the only person who deserves your love. You need to love yourself first...

Find this tricky to do, or know who someone who does, sharing is caring and ....enjoy this free ebook and tips www.internationalselfesteem.com or follow me for heaps more tips to living your life to the fullest. :)

How to Create a Fabulous Valentines Day for Yourself!

 

All our lives we spend with ourselves and yet sometimes we’ve had thought that having a partner is vital to our happiness. Valentines Day is possibly one of those day and along with being a big marketing gig, it’s can also be a day with up and down thoughts. Whether you are in any of these scenarios, these tips will work for you:

·         Madly in love

·         Madly out of love (Left a bad relationship, he lied, cheated or was a scum bag)

·         Better on your own

·         Haven’t found the right person – guy or girl

·         Lost someone

·         Was left for another person

·         Or anything else….

Valentines day is a great day to turn your attention to yourself. Sure if you’ve got someone you want to swoon, that’s fine, but it doesn’t need to be a partner, you can have a great day looking after yourself, enjoying yourself, having fun with friends or family. Here’s ten tips

·         Decide you’re going to have an awesome day – no matter what!

1.      Give your body a treat – fingernails (maybe not guys), exercise, massage,

2.      Do something with nature – bush/beach walk, tend the garden, smell some flowers

3.      Give yourself a treat – buy yourself some flowers, your favourite ice-cream, drink

4.      Do something for a friend, family, stranger – give them a flower, kiss, smile, present

5.      Humour yourself – check out You Tube for comedies

6.      Be healthy – (after the ice-cream), nourish your body with healthy food versus junk food

7.      Motivate yourself to take action on something that you’ve procrastinated about

8.      Write down 7 things you like about yourself. Free Ebook and Tips here

9.      Learn something positive Attitude Ecourse here

10.  Boost your Self Esteem Free Self EsteemEcourse here

11.  Improve your Relationships Free Difficult People Ebook here

12.  Like this page and share these tips to help someone else today.

Ultimately remember, YOU are the most important person in your life. Put YOURSELF at the top of your priority list and make sure you’re enjoying your life with yourself. Follow my blog or FB for more tips. Most importantly (if there is such a word) have a great day!!