Why things happen??

“Finding answers isn’t everything.”

We don’t always know why things happen. Disappointments and difficulties may never be explained. For example, you may never fully understand why management passed you up for a promotion or why a partner left you for someone else. No doubt there will be times in your life when you are left scratching your head trying to figure out, “Why?”

 

Letting go when there is no understanding that “Why?” is very hard. Our culture places such emphasis on finding answers. But, finding answers isn’t everything. Your life should not stop when you don’t understand events. Instead, you must learn to let go.

So, get on with your life. Regain your energy and passion. Let go of the frustration of asking “Why?” and you clear the deck for a brighter future!

RISK Poem

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental

To reach out is to risk your true self

To place your ideas and dreams before the crowd

Is to risk losing love

To love is to risk not being loved in return

To live is to risk dying

To hope is to risk despair

To try is to risk failure

BUT THE GREATEST HAZARD IN LIFE IS TO RISK NOTHING

The one who risks nothing

Does nothing

Has nothing and finally is nothing

He may avoid sufferings and sorrow,

But he simply cannot dream, feel or change, feel or love

He has forfeited freedom

THE ONE WHO RISKS IS FREE

 

 

Tips to Help Your Success - Positive Thinking Creates Success (+playlist)

Assess your present Happiness in life

Happiness depends upon ourselves.-  Aristotle

 

 

Here’s an exercise where you can rate your level of happiness in each area of your life.

The column headed ‘others’ could be spiritual, community and project may be a big goal, i.e. saving for a holiday.

These two areas are optional. However the score ten is the highest and one is the lowest for any column.

 It’s imperative you tap into your heart for this exercise instead of your head. Your heart creates the magic in your life (makes you happy) then your head has to create HOW you can make it happen. Often this works in reverse.

Do this exercise with your pen in your opposite hand, using the FIRST answer that comes into your head.

  Yourself/Health/Relationships/Work/Finances/Others/Project
   

10	10	10	10	10	10	10
9	9	9	9	9	9	9
8	8	8	8	8	8	8
7	7	7	7	7	7	7
6	6	6	6	6	6	6
5	5	5	5	5	5	5
4	4	4	4	4	4	4
3	3	3	3	3	3	3
2	2	2	2	2	2	2
1	1	1	1	1	1	1

 

 

 

Your areas where you have the rated yourself the highest marks, are the area you’ve had the most successes.

The areas with the lower marks are the areas of your life where you need to focus your goals.

The successful areas make you feel like a winner (and you are) the other areas make you feel like you’re a loser (which you’re not) you just haven’t achieved your goals in that part of your life YET!

You have free will so you can do it, if you choose.

As the author of How to get what you want in life and create success, and also a presenter on the new DVD True Happiness, I have had to recreate a happier, more purposeful personal and professional life.

It is a challenge but worth the effort to become your greatest.

Believing in yourself and overcoming your challenges gives you the confidence to move out of your comfort zone, and move onwards and upwards in your life, to happier times that you are experiencing this moment in time.

As Nike says: JUST DO IT!

 

If you want more help with learning about your values to set your goals along with tools and techniques that will help you succeed visit www.attitudetrainingforyou.com or check out www.thesuccessattitude.info for details about individual coaching or email Janice@attitudespecialist.com with your queries.

If you would like this in PDF format email Janice@attitudespecialist.com

 

Achieving Success

In your quest for success you will encounter challenges to your thinking.  It may have been ‘aha’ thoughts or you have realised areas in your life that have blocked you from success previously.  

 

 

At my coaching meeting with my Movie Script Coach at Santa Monica Los Angeles

As you overcome them and make changes, some of your friends, family or work colleagues will want you to remain the same.  If you’ve always caught the bus to work but now cycle for fitness, your friend you chatted with each trip will be encouraging you to return to the bus. They miss your time together. However, this is when you can remain friends and please them, or be true to yourself and your goals. 

 

Getting in Movie Mode - Walking on the Red carpet at 'the Universal studios

 

Reaching success in big goals starts with small steps.  Becoming a vet or a doctor is a long-term goal.  Years of training are undertaken before being employed.  Each passed exam is a step towards the big plan.  Enjoy the steps, because each one is leading to your fulfilment.

 On your journey towards your goal, you will be challenged from many directions.  Being true to yourself is your ultimate goal. Your life is precious, rewarding for learning loving and enjoying.  Live each day to the fullest, yesterday has gone, so have no regrets, and tomorrow has not yet come.

 

 

Inside the Dolby Theatre in Hollywood where they have the Grammy Awards

Difficult People Stories from Workshops

Over the years of running my most popular workshop on Dealing with Difficult People and Tricky Situations, I have had many people who have realised they are getting bullied by a co-worker.
Here are three bullying stories:

75 Reported Incidents

 

 A lady attended my workshop to learn how to deal with difficult people. While she listened, she suddenly realised that she was being bullied from a colleague. After the workshop she discussed her challenges with her Human Resources officer. She was told to record her experiences over the next two weeks. She recorded 75 episodes. After her next meeting with her HR officer, she was told that the three of them would sit down and discuss them all. The lady then told the HR officer that because she was not sleeping or eating properly. And was constantly worrying about work and losing weight, she decided that she could not endure the cross examining. She said she would rather leave and handed in her notice and left her job.

Unfortunately the bully stayed and was not reprimanded, waiting for her next victim and the lady who left within a month found a better job, with no bullying.

Family Dysfunction affects Managers Autocratic Performance

In his early 40’s a manager in a building factory was told to attend my workshop. The business owner for whom he worked for, shared with me the disruptive behaviours of his employee.

During the workshop the employee shared that he was on medication for his stress and depression. As a child he had been beaten from his drunken father and had grown up in a very dysfunctional family. He had been married 2 or 3 times and his present relationship was not very happy. He was a good looking physically fit man, but was very unhappy with his personal and professional life. He was very clever with his hands, hence his work as a building factory and was promoted to manager. However, the challenge came with his bullying and autocratic style of management. He only knew one way to have relationships and that was to bully people so they did what he wanted.

 

After my workshop he had some understanding about what had happened in his life, but when he left he was undecided whether he would continue learning and start to change his life.

 

 

 

 

 4 Employees in 18 months

A lady who attended my workshop, came to learn how to deal with a difficult female manager at work.  She was in a secretarial position and found after three months in the job, that she was feeling less confident every month. Her husband was concerned for her and suggested she learn how to stand up to her. After my workshop she realised she was being bullied by the manager and after discussing it with others in the lunchroom, she discovered that she was the fourth person in this position in 18 months. The previous three ladies had either been relocated within the university or found other positions. Her HR officer told her to just put up with it, but after attending my workshop and understanding what was happening, the lady who attended decided that she would ask to be relocated within the company or find another position. She knew she was a confident woman before this working in this position and wanted to become a confident lady again, rather one who was getting demoralised at her work from a bully.

Her Testimonial
I thank you for your assistance at the course. It was good for me to be able to identify the problem and the behaviour and not to blame myself (or continue to think that I am incompetent when I have been working in admin for 30 years) for what has been happening within the office. Three of the four staff working under this person have now resigned, all having found other positions and the 4th is job hunting. I think the final straw was when I was told not to have anything to do with several important PA’s because they had formed an unfair and unjust opinion of my boss.

If you want more online information about difficult people and bullying, visit
Difficult People Help

Two Fun Sailing Poems

What a Woman Likes to See

 

What a woman likes to see

But where most men don't like to be

Down below in the galley

Making a hot cup of tea

Or cleaning up the mess

They say, they like that even less.

I've not read it in a book

That a woman should be the cook

So, A woman loves to see

A man below in the galley.

 

Inspired as I watched four men cleaning up the boat after their holiday.

I got a tea towel thrown at me, after I'd written this and when I read it to the men.

 

Wearing my favourite clothes (and they still are) my old America's Cup uniform on the helm of an old America's Cup boat...Bliss!!

Washing the Decks

There's a fun part comes out in me

Especially when I'm on high sea

Captain's hat upon my head

On the helm, where I love to be

Sails full of 30 knot breeze

Sailing, angled precariously

The men after, after a drink or three

Nature calls - top priority

Deciding the sterns not safe to be

Down below to the loo they flee

That's when I chose, so thoughtfully

To call out "it's time for me...

To wash the decks beneath the sea"

So, I angle the boat off to the lee

Waves wash along the bow to me

Yes, done so innocently

Upset man's balance precariously

As I 'washed the decks, beneath the sea'

When nature calls the men

After a drink or three!!

 

Written on the high seas from Cavalli Islands towards Whangaroa Harbour up north.

 I was paid back!!

 

Poems from my book: Sailing a Different Course.

 

 

2000 America's Cup volunteers...I'm in the middle in the front.

A black sheep in the family.

Only lady willing to take the gamble until a few others joined in.