Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Look for Star Beams

It was a hot night, I couldn’t sleep and work was running through my mind. Finally, I decided it was time to take positive action. I made a cup of Milo and ventured outside to my home...on the cliff looking out over the sea, where I am lucky enough to live.

It was windless night or rather 4am and almost dawn. In the night air there were no tree leaves rustling and no birds singing. Above the stars from the Milky Way spread across the sky. Between the leaves on the Pohutokawa tree I sat under, I glimpsed two satellites race across the sky. In front of me, the sea stretched out to Rangitoto Island. It was glassy smooth and reflected the red light of the beacon on the rocks in front of us. There was only a gentle rustle of waves breaking silence.

As I looked to the rocks 300 feet below me, nature provided me with an amazing fluorescent show, just like you see in a nightclub with the strobe lights.
The sea had floating in it fluorescent (I’m sure there is a technical name) and every time there is movement of waves or fish swimming in it, nature provided an amazing light show. Whenever a wave rolled onto the rocks a chemical reaction caused an illumination underneath the rock face and the rocks glowed. It was beautiful!

HOWEVER, nature provided more…

I’ve seen the sun shining on the sea and watch the sunbeam glow across the sea.

I’ve seen the moon shining on the sea and watched a moonbeam shimmering across the sea.

Nevertheless, I was blown away (and forgot my thoughts of work) as something different was shining on the water. I thought it must be the light from a ship as two were cruising past at 4am…ready to dock at Auckland Harbour. However, I was wrong.

I ran inside to get the binoculars and stared at the distant light. It flickered and sparkled all the way back to me. Only then I realised it was a bright star, shining its light across the ocean. I was looking at my first star beam! Nature had provided another free light show…it had taken me fifty something years to see one…and I was (dare I say it) star struck! I watched… amazed!

As the mosquitoes started to attack, I thanked ‘the universe’ and slinked back to bed refreshed, tired, not thinking about work…and mind blown!

The moral of the story is –
when you’re thinking about work and shouldn’t be, turn to nature and see what glory and peace of mind it provides you...and remember to take a moment and enjoy life!

Monday, January 24, 2011

Invest in Yourself to Succeed

It’s plain and simple: If you don’t believe you will succeed, you won’t!

This is definitely not a rocket science, but if your thoughts are telling you, “You will fail” or “I don’t believe in you”, then, you will sabotage yourself.

Anyone you may have known who is successful, from your school teachers to family members, friends, television or movie stars, and successful business people at some time in their life, studied to get their qualifications or craft, because all of them have decided on a goal and worked towards it.

If these people didn’t set any goals, they wouldn’t be earning the salaries they have, working in a job they enjoy, involved in a relationship with a loving partner or a variety of other successful outcomes.

However, there is one more key to their success and that is - they believed in themselves that they would achieve.

It’s easier and less satisfying not working towards achieving. In fact, that is being stuck in a rut, held a prisoner to your fear and thoughts.

I’m sure, you don’t remember your brain teaching you how to walk. Even without some stimulation, in one stage of your life, you would probably thought of wanting to grasp out for something.

Do you recall what motivated you to start muttering your first sounds? Or perhaps what made you cry out for food? I’m sure you don’t remember. You just did it automatically! And, somewhere, someone was investing time in your life to help you learn the basic skills of living.

Over the years, you grew up with a wide variety of input into life, some positive and some negative. You are likely to remember some significant moments that could be life changing. Again, some of these may be positive and some are negative. Maybe you may have clung to the negative ones and have not taken the time to change these thoughts in your mind. By not doing so, you’ve decided it’s easier to become a “cling-on” to negativity and underachieve in your life.

If you think about it, your body tells you when to eat, sleep and dozens of other activities which you do automatically. However, your brain works in automatic mode replaying negative thoughts until you decide you want to take control of it and invest time in changing the way you think.

If you want to lose weight, study, find a partner, save money or whatever your goal would be, you have to control your mind to succeed. You need to invest time into achieving positive thoughts.

If you seek a happy life, you have a choice. Think happy, decide to be happy and work towards creating a happy life. It is really simple. However, people often make things challenging for themselves. When challenges arise in we get stuck in a rut, thinking the same thoughts and not investing time to make changes.

Years ago, I had the choice whether to pay a lump sum off my mortgage or go on a self development course. I chose the self development course and learned that if I change my mind and the way I think about things in life, I can create thousands of dollars more.

I continue to think this way: Investing in myself. For you to succeed, you won’t only need time and take advantage of offers that come your way, but you will also have to value yourself enough to make some investment in products that will teach you success.

Do you want One-Dollar-A-Day Happiness?

Deciding on a dollar a day happiness, will depend on whether you have enough money in your life, to create the dream life you want - or not.

You may say yourself ”I can’t afford a dollar a day” but I ask you “can you afford not to?” If that one dollar a day is going to help teach you how to find love, success or happiness, you may decide that it is worth your investment.

Our basic survival human needs are food, water and shelter. However, most of us want other aspects in our life like people, possessions or places which can help you enjoy your life and become your best.

Being unable to meet any of our basic needs can have you feeling angry, sad, lonely, negative. Ultimately you may feel you are missing out the enjoyment of life. People who feel they lack something are living a life below their right and potential.

If you search on Google or any other search engines, you will discover that some of the most searched terms online are about attitude, love, happiness and other positive words and phrases. This is because people are looking for avenues that will give them a life that will make them feel happy.

Additionally, some of the other most searched terms relate to negative aspects of life like, anger, negativity, hate, loss and grief. People are searching because these are challenges that people would like to learn and overcome.

Ultimately, you want to have a positive successful life. However to achieve that you will need to learn to over come your daily fears and challenges you experience and fight your negative emotions, thoughts and feelings.

Taking this thought one step further….here’s a famous saying:

If you keep on doing the same thing…you will get the same result.

Consequently, if you don’t learn some new thoughts, you will continue going around in the same rut in your life. You have to value yourself as well by “investing” more in you in order to achieve your dreams.

You have five main areas of life that you need to set your goals in. At different stages some of these goals will have higher significance than others. If you are looking forward to getting fit and healthy, you would focus on exercise- maybe walking, buying gym equipment for home or just going to the gym. You focus your $1 a day (or it could be more) on achieving your own goal.

Consequently your personal goals are also changing, as you enter different stages and ages in your life. For example, over twenty years ago, I wanted to change my thoughts from negative to positive and I wanted to improve my self esteem. I didn’t have any spare money, so I borrowed books from friends or got them from the library.

Now, years later, I’m spending more than one dollar on me so I can achieve bigger and greater dreams. These include cruise the world, sit in a bay and write books and a lot more goals that are constantly driving me to change my thinking further outside the square box to succeed. Now, what about you? Are you learning anything new that will help you change for the better, which in turn will help you achieve your goals?

Isn’t a dollar a day, spent on you, learning new ideas to implement, all worth it? I think it is! Now it’s up to you. Success or failure? The choice is yours.

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

YOUR 2011 Goals - Free Ebook

HAPPY NEW YEAR ... 11/1/11 was an awesome day yesterday...but today is another day to 'rethink and create a new you'..as is everyday of your life. This ezine was due out yesterday but due to 'online techo issues out of my control' it's was delayed and after a few hours of solution seeking - I must admit I got stressed. SO, I had to rethink my goals and reactions to stress for my life in 2011....but what about you? I have a question for you.... Are you dreaming your dream life? OR Are you setting goals to achieve it? If you need some help, my gift to you is my ebook: How to Get what You want in Your Life I wrote this over 10 years ago and revamp my goals every year...and am getting closer to one of my many goals - "to sit in a boat in a bay and write". I read Michael Hill has 30 year goals....which he set after his house fire at the age of 40...and look what he's achieved....so IT"S NEVER TOO LATE TO START. My goal process looks at your values, dream life, goals, the obstacles and time management as well...as you set your plans. (You will need to scroll down this page and as it's normally a product I sell for $10, you will have to complete the forms on my shopping cart before you get to a page to download the pdf file.) Click here to download YOUR FREE GOALS EBOOK.www.attitudespecialist.co.nz/e-books.htm BE quick - offer only available for one week. A great tip for our first week back at work...If you're like me, you're finding this first week a bit of a challenge. Day one I gave myself treats...with the nuts etc left over from Christmas and dipped them in Nutella (Hazelnut spread). I thought this was a compromise of healthy snack...and for my first day decided I deserved this low calorie (I'm sure) treat. And I'd done some baking...first time in YEARS.Find some treats for yourself this week

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Wake up Shake up after 'Snuffing it'.

Work/Life balance is critical. The recession is over (?) but the after affects linger. I don't know about you...but my business and stress levels were affected....and like many globally, I've not recovered yet....until I was forced to!

You see.....I was told I ‘snuffed' it! I went blue in 20 seconds elegantly 'frothed' at the mouth and did some weird movements and lost 15 minutes of my life. My partner relayed to the St John Ambulance lady (as he relayed my progress whilst waiting for the ambulance) that I must be okay....because I was arguing with him - not wanting to stay in the 'recovery' position. But I don't remember...until I woke staring into the lovely eyes of the St John Ambulance man.

He was a bit of 'tall dark and handsome' type so I could have been on my way to heaven....BUT Thankfully, I hadn't gone there...I would have been angry with myself if I had. You see, I wasn't listening to the signs, my body was telling me....and didn't start taking positive action...until I'd had my 'wake up call'.

Since then, I've done LOTS of investigating physically, mentally, spiritually, work and life wise and making LOTS of changes....(including buying a boat)...

All the reports from the hospital THANKFULLY came back I was okay. I’d had no earlier symptoms… (except those related with stress, not sleeping properly, tired etc. etc) so to everyone concerned – I was ok.

HOWEVER – I took this as a ‘wake up’ call. I was not ready to ‘snuff it’. I had tickets to the Eagles concert in Sydney with my daughters joining us…AND lots of exciting things I wanted to do.

I started with physical side of life by visiting the
• kinesiology
• chiropractor
• massages
• health books and shops,
• check ups with the doctors again
• new food and diet
• new habits (like resting and not working in the middle of the night)
• baths in the middle of the day
• breathing properly
• drink more water, carrot juice and cranberry juice
• lying in the sun
• and very gradually have started to make a ‘come back’ as I embark on more answers like yoga which I started again.

I also checked out the spiritual side of life which I have written my new book about my journey, and I’d seen an angel the night before it happened….so I thought I might find some answers there. AND I DID! I believe we are spiritual beings living in a physical body, and although I had started a new mediation programme (I’ve always struggled with this) I still need to chill out, revamp my life and myself (some more) and change business direction. So I visited the minister of the Unity church I attend…where I have since learnt that Oprah reads the same Daily Word quote book that I do, Plus I had a reading and an angel reading.

As a motivational speaker, trainer and author – our authenticity comes from living and learning before we can teach. I’ve had LOTS to learn… so teach from my own experiences.

One of my goals was to sit in a boat in a bay and write. I didn’t know what or where…but I’m now buying a share in a boat to live that dream. I’ve never been to a Neil Diamond concert…so going along to dance and sing there….and LOADS of other dreams to live.

However….first I have to believe and have faith and trust in myself to listen and create these things. Every human being has to do this…sometimes it isn’t easy…when we don’t know what’s planned for the next day….but as Eckhart Tulle says…live in the moment...we only have one life…and following our passions (mine is helping people boost their self esteem) then we will be on the correct journey for us.

My message to you is – find your journey and keep fine tuning yourself. (Like I have been doing and continue to do for the last 25 years.) The world is waiting for you to listen, live and laugh as you become your best, firstly for yourself and then to help make the world a better place. Don’t delay anymore….listen to the wind, the waves and the messages from words of friends, words in songs, words in books and blogs (like this) take care of yourself in your life.

In our business to succeed, we can forget the basics like I do. But my wake up shake up has set me off to further fine-tune my life to my greatness. I urge you to do the same.

Scary and exciting…this journey encompasses both of those emotions. Embrace them and concentrate on success. It will come with faith and trust and clarity and work. It does for others…so there is no reason it won’t happen to you…if you believe in yourself.

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Stress-Control Tools That Start With Your Heart

Step One: Focus on your heart as you breathe in. Then, as you breathe out, shift your focus to the solar plexus, right below the heart. Breathe that way for 10-30 seconds-breathing in through the heart and out through the solar plexus.
This will bring you to a "neutral state." If you're really stressed out, or have been through a dangerous ordeal, you may have to do it for up to a minute.

Step Two: Now, select some kind of positive attitude or feeling. Rozman suggests something simple like appreciation. Something you enjoy and appreciate: your child, your spouse, a great vacation you remember, or even last night's poker game.
"So, now you keep breathing in through the heart and out through the solar plexus, while you're pretending to breathe that feeling or attitude in and out. It starts to shift your whole physiology back into coherence, back into that synchronized mode; so it's not just relaxation, it's energization," she says.

Step Three: "Once you feel the appreciation-or just the attitude of it, if you can't feel anything-you want to 'lock' it in by imagining that you're building and restoring that positive energy right into your body. Picture your cells recouping, your muscles regaining, your nervous system smoothing out. Feel yourself recharging your inner battery," says Rozman.

"You're still breathing into the heart and out through the solar plexus casually-you're not forcing it. You've done 30 seconds to just get it there, then you did 30 seconds where you were finding that positive attitude, now you want to lock it in for another 30 seconds. You just keep visualizing building and storing that positive feeling that appreciation gives you."

You can select the attitudes to breathe that will help you offset a negative emotion or imbalance of any stressful situation you're in, she says. "Breathe deeply with the intent of shifting any moment to a [better] feeling or attitude, from neutral-'Okay, I'm in this hairy situation, let me breathe in the attitude of neutral or balance'-to compassion or care, patience, clarity or anything. As long as it's a positive attitude: what you would really like to feel right then. You can use it in real time when you're in the danger zone.
"For example, we do training for trauma centers and emergency workers, and they learn to breathe in compassion and breathe out care for the patient; or breathe in balance so they don't get freaked out by the blood and gore, and breathe out appreciation that they're helping someone." You can breathe in any positive attitude that you can remember feeling and that helps you be what you want to be, she says.

"It imprints that whole attitude on your physiology and your heart-you 'put your heart into it,' and it's your heart that drives it. This creates the coherent rhythm that signals the brain, and then the brain signals the immune system and the hormonal system, renewing them. It's a way to reboot your whole internal system."
For more information, see www.heartmath.com.

Monday, September 27, 2010

Invest in yourself to Succeed

Invest in Yourself to Succeed

If you want to succeed, you need to change your thinking so you execute an action that will take you one step closer to your success.

Failure to change your thoughts would have you not reading, writing or doing arithmetic, which are all vital skills to you succeeding. You wouldn’t have a job, a career or your business. You wouldn’t have your degree, skills and knowledge that you have now.

Imagine in your retirement, you would be reliant on any government subsidies or others for your food, water and shelter. According to Maslow, these are vital needs to your survival and you would be without them all.

With your thoughts your first action towards success, if you allow your brain to wander of its own accord, it would be full of negative thoughts. You know, you already experience them now. It is no wonder that for thousands of years, mankind has been writing quotes, poems, love songs and books, full of words about succeeding and some type of positive action.

Left to rumble on its own, your thoughts would help you lead a life or misery and negativity.

I’m sure you’ve meet these people anyway. It is a sunny day, but it’s too hot. It’s a winter’s day but it’s too cold….and on this negative thinking continues.
These people are sorry cases that are best left to their own company when they are thinking like that

But don’t let that be you! If you want to succeed you must take control of your thoughts. Your brain is 3 pounds of untapped flesh waiting for the opportunity to help you succeed.

I’ve spend twenty-five years learning to control my thoughts and wonder at the amount of new information that is available as I continue to learn to programme it with my dreams and desires. From single parenting on government assistance, to a variety of careers and now after learning myself my work is motivating others to believe in themselves so they will succeed.

Take control of your thoughts, read books, quotes and success stories as you fill your mind with your thoughts about your success and you are on your journey to become a winner.

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